If you’ve ever wondered how your favorite influencer always has a photographer ready to capture her latest outfit or vacation, the answer is simple: she’s got an Instagram husband.
If you were to draw a Venn diagram, the circles of “Actual husband” and “Instagram husband” would overlap for many successful influencers. But a marriage license is hardly required to meet the definition. An Instagram husband is simply the person behind the camera, always ready to snap a photo (or 50) when the right moment arises.
So who are these Instagram husbands, and how do you know if you need one? Read on to find out.
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A short history of “Instagram husbands”
Before there were Instagram husbands, there were blogger boyfriends. In 2014, Fashionista published a story about “the camera-wielding boyfriends behind fashion’s most famous bloggers.”
As the Fashionista article observed, “Among the top bloggers today, it is almost impossible to find a successful blog that does not have a boyfriend attached to the business.”
It made perfect sense: romantic partners are usually around to capture those photogenic occasions. The rationale for the fashion bloggers was that they were more affordable than a professional photographer, and could take direction. Even more importantly, they understood their subjects better than anyone else.
These qualities in a photographer became even more valuable with the rise of Instagram. Who better to document all those natural, spontaneous moments that perform well on the platform than your romantic partner?
The blogger boyfriend evolved, like a Pokemon levelling up. And a new term for their role went mainstream thanks to a 2015 viral video, “Instagram Husband.”
“When most of our wives started finding success in this industry with businesses that actually required husbands to become more involved, that video was the only basis that most Instagram husbands had to base our new identity off of,” said Jordan Joseph Ramirez, partner of influencer Dani Austin and host of the Instagram Husband podcast. “Even today, people think all we do is take pictures.”
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Overcoming the “Instagram husband” stigma
For as long as the phrase “Instagram husband” has been circulating, it’s been used as a punchline. No guy wants to be like the miserable men in the viral Instagram husband video, unable to even sip their latte without taking a photo first.
That video was made by a real-life Instagram husband, Jeff Houghton, and features him and his wife. Houghton has said that he didn’t mean the video to be “a statement on gender roles,” but it’s not a flattering depiction. The idea that a man might enjoy taking his partner’s photos, or that he might care about her happiness and success, isn’t part of the skit.
This idea is changing, in part because Instagram husbands are becoming more visible. While blogger boyfriends generally maintained a low profile, Instagram husbands make frequent appearances on the platform.
Influencers chronicle their lives on the platform. They share photos of their homes, pets, workout routines, and vacations. So of course they post about their significant others, too.
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Met this angel of a human 12 years (!) ago today. We were at a nightclub on Spring Break. The last place on earth you’d expect to find your future @instahusband, but here we are. I was wearing a black & white striped tube top (ew) with tiny jean shorts and heels; he came up to my table and asked if I wanted to dance. I said “fine, I guess.” I thought he was handsome and he seemed nice, even though I couldn’t hear a word he was saying because the music was so loud. We ended up hitting it off and spent the entire week together. My friends were SHOCKED that I could tolerate the same guy for so many days in a row (and tbh I was even more shocked than they were.) Over the years I’ve grown to love him more than I ever thought I was capable of loving a person. Thank you @instahusband for approaching me that night despite my trashy outfit and bitchy resting face. I owe you one
Some Instagram husbands are even becoming influencers in their own right, like Robbie Tripp. He capitalized on his viral “curvy wife” Instagram post and launched his own public career.
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|| As we celebrate our fifth Valentine’s Day together, I can only think about how I’ve fallen deeper in love with @sassyredlipstick each day over the past five years. I guess I never really knew that it was possible to love another human being this much. I knew so quickly in the beginning she was The One. That’s why I said the words ‘I love you’ at the end of just one week in person with her. Some may say that’s way too soon but that’s genuinely how quickly I knew. I only had to be around her laugh and feel the warmth of her soul for a week before I knew she would one day be the mother of my children. My definition of beauty became what she is. My previous preconceptions of what a relationship should look like were exceeded by everything she brought into my world. She became my only and my everything. I haven’t looked anywhere but her golden honey chocolate brown eyes since then. She’s all I see. And she’s only become more divine with each passing day. She’s it. You’ve always been my always, dollface. || #myqueen #teamtripp #myvalentine #valentinesday #wifey #love
But plenty of Instagram husbands do way more than take photos. As Taylor Lorenz wrote in The Atlantic, many are full-fledged partners in the influencer business. With the help of their husbands, many influencers have built massive audiences, led successful campaigns, and even launched their own products.
This growth is possible because Instagram has evolved. It’s no longer just a place to post pretty photos; it’s also a launch pad for brands and businesses. Likewise, many influencers started their account as a fun hobby but have grown it into a career.
As the platform has changed, so too has the understanding of what an Instagram husband does—at least a little bit. So what does an Instagram husband really do behind the scenes?
The life of an “Instagram husband”
Ramirez, who interviews other Instagram husbands for his podcast, says there’s a lot of variation.
“Some hold onto their full-time jobs and so are confined mainly to taking pictures, being loosely involved, and just being emotionally very supportive of the chaotic lifestyle that comes with blogging,” he wrote. “Other Instagram husbands are definitely more involved in the business side.”
Thomas Berolzheimer, the Instagram husband behind @galmeetsglam, is on the more involved side. “I am involved in overseeing how our companies operate, especially on the financial and strategic sides. However, I also wear the hat of primary photographer, oversee website design and development and new business development, as well as contribute content once in a while.”
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We had a date night planned downtown last night, but last minute I asked @tberolz if we could cancel because I was too tired. He said he would much rather stay at home and cook for his girls. This little lady really takes it out of me some days! #BabyB #homebodies #athome
While Instagram husbands are a modern convention, the marriage-and-creative-business partnership is nothing new.
Famous literary couples like Vladimir Nabokov and his wife Vera, or Virginia Woolf and her husband Leonard, split their labor the same way. One partner focuses on creative efforts, and the other keeps everything running smoothly behind the scenes.
“While many Instagram husbands are involved in running the business, one of the most important aspects, in my opinion, is being the go-to person for support, advice and encouragement,” wrote Berolzheimer. “It’s challenging to run a business where one person is the ‘product.’”
In part, that challenge is due to harassment. Many influencers have spoken out about being harassed on the platform. As an influencer’s audience grows, so does her likelihood of attracting trolls.
While a professional photographer could take amazing photos, a trusted partner is also there for support when dealing with critical comments or bullies.
Finding your “Instagram husband”
If you’re looking to grow your career as an influencer, an Instagram husband can be a huge asset. But don’t assume you need an actual spouse who’s good with a camera—or any spouse at all.
Not all popular influencers have husbands who love picking up the camera. That’s why many of them work with dedicated professional photographers. For example, Arielle Charnas of Something Navy collaborates with photographer Alexandra Wolf.
But if you don’t have that kind of budget, you can still rely on a network of support. Aimee Song, who has 5.2 million followers, asks her sister, boyfriend, assistant or even her dad to snap photos. To ensure she gets a good shot, she provides lots of direction to her impromptu photographers.
Ramirez said that he’d heard of people working with their moms, but couldn’t think of any examples of Instagram wives taking photos for their husbands. This might reflect that influencer marketing is female-dominated. Women shared 83.9 percent of sponsored posts in 2017.
But that doesn’t mean they don’t exist. In the vast universe of Instagram influencers, there must be a few women behind the camera.
Mariano di Vaio, who has more than six million followers, is one male influencer. His wife is often in his photos, though it’s not clear whether she takes them. However, she definitely manages the influencer accounts of their children.
There are also queer influencers with supportive partners like Angelis Borges, whose wife Nina makes frequent appearances in front of (and behind) the camera.
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To my beautiful wife, I hope this year brings you as much joy and happiness that you have brought and continue to bring into my life. I feel so blessed to have such a beautiful and supportive wife like you. I wish you true happiness on your birthday, and always. My love, on this day (yesterday) that you celebrate your birthday I want you to know that you are the best wife in the whole world and I am so lucky to be your wife. If I had to choose again, u would definitely be my number one all over again. You are the light of my life and I love u so much. Thank you for always believing in me and making me feel like the most important thing in your life. May all our life be filled with loving memories. Te amo bebe!!! @nina_fisher_ ❤️ Thank you so much @tahoesouth for the amazing experience. . . #wifeandwife #lgbttravel #happybday #love
Now that you know you don’t need to take the term “Instagram husband” literally, what should you be looking for?
5 things to look for in an Instagram “husband”
There are a few universal qualities that Instagram husbands have in common. If you’re scouting for a partner, here’s what you need.
1. Talent with a camera
The most important word here is “Instagram,” not “husband.” You need to find someone who can take excellent photos, which are the key to building a strong presence.
Fortunately, anyone can learn to take amazing photos for Instagram. With a little practice and patience (and some editing tools), you can get those high-quality snaps. A few tips: use natural light, try different angles, and take a ton of photos so you have options.
A strong creative partnership is founded on trust. Think about it: you’re more honest and open with your close friends than with someone you don’t really know. Conveying that authenticity is valuable when developing your voice as an influencer.
And having someone you can rely on allows you to plan for the future.
“We’ve known a lot of people in this industry, and the ones that seem to continuously improve each year are those with a solid foundation set by a team and/or Instagram husband behind the scenes,” said Berolzheimer.
You don’t want a relationship like the Instagram husband video, where the job is a huge drag for the men involved. Instead, you want to find someone who genuinely wants to help your influencer career grow.
And a supportive partner will also lead to better content, because they’ll take pride in their work with you.
“The BEST Instagram husbands I have met are the ones that give up their pride and ego and help in every area that they can with their spouse,” said Ramirez.
4. Not afraid of the spotlight
Another important quality? Someone who doesn’t mind sharing in the attention. Your audience will want to see the person taking the photos. Your Instagram husband should expect to make an appearance on your account from time to time.
5. A shared vision
Whoever that partner is, they should help you set and reach your professional goals. Anyone can help you take a single photo for your account, but an Instagram husband is in it for the long haul.
Ultimately, the Instagram husband phenomenon proves that influencer marketing is a growing industry. And if you want to build your own influencer career, now you know what to look for in a business partner!
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